Is It Positive or Negative? You Decide

A while back, I took my boys to thesmile on my face.I then went to the grocery
neighborhood pool. They were excited becausestore to pick up some milk, and saw aisle after
the pool had just opened for the season. Whenaisle filled with food, supplies, drinks and fresh
we got there, I quickly found some chairs nearproduce. Now here was abundance and prosperity!
some acquaintances of ours, and as the boysI saw people chatting and smiling, and two children
swam, we started to chat.About 20 minuteshappily eating a messy chocolate doughnut.I went
went by when I began to notice that everythingback to the Post Office and started to chat with
my friend talked about had a negative slant to it.the woman in front of me who was mailing a
First it was complaining about a particular teacherpackage to her son in Iraq filled with things she
at school, then it was about the lack of time in lifethought they might need.I logged onto the
in general, and on and on it went. She said nothingInternet and received a wonderful email from a
positive . all negative, complaining about this andfriend entitled "The Positive Side of Life." I then
that. When she got to politics, I decided that itreceived an email from an old friend of mine
was enough and quickly excused myself andwhom I have known for over 30 years now. It
jumped into the pool.As I swam around the pool,always puts a smile on my face when I hear
I couldn't help but hear other conversations.from her.As I was leaving the house to pick up
Imagine my surprise when I found that they toomy boys from school, I saw my neighbor again.
were mostly negative!!! Curious now, I walkedSo I asked him how he was doing. He turned and
over to the soda machine and said, "How arelooked at me with a big smile on his face and
you?" to some other neighbors. Their reply?replied "No worries mate!". As I drove away, I
"Tired. You know how it goes." Not exactlyflipped on the radio and immediately heard a song
negative, but certainly not positive either.So now Icalled "I'm on Top of the World!"That evening, I
was REALLY curious! Was it just that it was theturned on the evening news, and heard an
end of the week and everyone was tired andextremely beautiful story about a woman moving
grumpy? I decided to test it, so for the next fewinto her first home - built by the wonderful
days I really paid attention to everything I saworganization Habitat for Humanity. Then the
and heard to see how much negativity thereweather came on and I was told that bright
really was.Let me tell you I didn't have to trysunshine would be in our area for the next few
very hard.First I went to the grocery store. As Idays. Later that evening, I watched a rerun from
waited for the clerk to tally my groceries, Ithat great show on ABC called Extreme
started chatting with her and soon I was beingMakeover Home Edition. In 7 days they
told a story about when she was in Japan. Sincecompletely change a needy families home and life.
she's a blond, she complained that her trip wasWhat an act of kindness!Now there is a spiritual
horrible because all they wanted to do was touchprinciple out there that says what you put your
her hair!That evening I switched on the eveningattention to grows. Certainly the case here!!! I put
news and was presented with 30 minutes ofmy attention to all the negative "stuff" that I was
rape, murder, robberies, drownings, childassaulted with for a few days and it slammed
abductions and a story about Martha Stewart. Ininto me so hard that I wanted to cry from it all.
between these heartwarming stores, I listened toIt got so bad that I saw it everywhere I went.
commercials about weight loss, adult ADD and aFrom the grocery store to the post office to my
new drug that they said everyone should takeown home. It could make a person seriously
(but had some small side effects like nausea andparanoid!!!!!!! When I placed my attention on the
sometimes death).Alrighty then!!!After the news, Ipositive, it grew too. It was like it had suddenly
flipped around and found more heartwarmingstopped raining and the warm sun came out.So
stores on television such as "Law and Order", "ER"how do you remain positive, healthy and
and "CSI Miami". All great shows but hardlyprosperous in a negative world? Here's what I
positive. It seems I was surrounded by murder,do.1. Surround yourself with positive people. Treat
rape and the dregs of society - all in primetime! Iothers like you want to be treated -- positively!
settled for a "Touched by an Angel" rerun andWith positive encouragement and thoughts!!!2.
went to bed.When I woke up the next morning, IRead positive inspirational books3. TURN OFF THE
continued to pay attention. The first thing on myNEWS as much as possible.4. Try and avoid
agenda that morning was a visit to the postnewspapers, although you should scan the
office. As I drove, I flipped on the radio to myheadlines so that you know what's going on in the
favorite radio station and what do I hear? I hearworld5. Write down all the positive things that
a woman singing the following lyrics: "Woundshave happened to you in the last month and post
won't seem to heal, the pain is just too real." Ithem where you can see them. "See" your life as
switched to another station.At the post office Ia success!!! Don't "see" your life as a failure!!! Look
was greeted at the door by an identity theftat all the positive things that you've done!!!6. Put a
poster. I then went to Target to pick up a newpositive/inspirational poster over your desk. You
bathing suit for one of my sons and noticed thatcan also put a "plus" sign, or the words "stay
they had TV monitors all over the place. As Ipositive" over your desk to remind you to be
looked at it, I saw a story about how to preventpositive.7. Read some inspirational books like the
your child from being abducted.Are you seeing anew one from my friend Connie Domino called
pattern here? I am not making this up; it reallyDevelop Irresistible Attraction.8. Turn someone
happened.OK, let's try the computer. Maybe that'selse's negative day into a positive and help them
better.After logging on, I took a look at myout!Now please know that I am not telling you to
homepage at MSN and I saw a story aboutblindly ignore the reality of the world. I am telling
Al-Qaida, another about a woman found strangledyou that you can see that reality and also see
and a weather related story about a nastythe POSITIVES as well. The world can indeed be
tornado.And don't forget my email. I had my usuala cruel place. Crime, poverty and illness seem to
number of SPAM emails, which generally includesbe everywhere, but the world can be a beautiful
sales pitches, porn and various offers aboutplace filled with love, warmth, compassion and
Viagra. Oh, and don't forget the email from Nigeriaprosperity.Do you see the glass as half-full or
who wants to wash one million dollars through myhalf-empty?Negative things will happen in the
checking account and wants me to send him theworld. They happen to all of us! But look at it this
number. Of course he'll give me half.Uh huh. Iway. Positive things will happen as well. Good
totally believe you.Later that day, I went to getthings will happen to you. Joy will find you!It's goes
my mail and saw my neighbor outside doing someback to the law of physics ...1. Every action
yard work. When I stopped to say hello he askedcauses a reaction2. We attract like energySo if
me how I was doing. So I replied "No worrieswe put out negative thoughts and actions and
mate, I am doing really great today!" (I just loveconstantly focus on the negative, we will
that Australian expression). I really don't think heATTRACT negative back to us. It will be all that
was expecting me to say that because hewe see!! Conversely, if we put out positive
stopped what he was doing and looked at me likethoughts and try our best to see the positive,
I had just escaped from an insane asylum. I justthen we will attract the positive back.We live in a
laughed, told him I would see him later and wentnegative world. So be it. I, however, refuse to be
into my house.When did it become politicallynegative and will continue to try and remain
incorrect to tell people something positive??I havepositive as much as possible. I've had my share
to tell you all that by the end of the second day Iof bad times, trust me, I wrote the book on that
was physically feeling sick and incredibly tired. Soone. The good news is that I don't have to stay
tired I went to bed at 9:00 p.m. and asked mythat way if I don't choose to. I choose prosperity,
husband Ron to put the boys to bed. I justlove and compassion.I choose to look at the glass
wanted to lie down and pull the covers way upas half full, one day at a time."Gratitude, like faith,
over my head and forget about it all.So what did Iis a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it
learn from this little test? I learned that you cangrows, and the more power you have to use it
mess up your mind with this stuff! I felt like I hadon your behalf. If you do not practice
been dragged into a negative world filled withgratefulness, its benefaction will go unnoticed, and
greed, fear and hatred. A world where youyour capacity to draw on its gifts will be
always lack money and never achieve your life'sdiminished. To be grateful is to find blessings in
dreams because you're too fat, too thin, too sick,everything. This is the most powerful attitude to
going to be sick, need a job, lost a job, and onadopt, for there are blessings in everything." -
and on it seemed to go.I felt that my brain hadAlan CohenKatharine Giovanni has been a meeting
been so saturated with negativity that I was inevent planner and concierge for over 20 years
danger of becoming physically sick! By the end ofand has set up five successful businesses: Meeting
the second day I was yelling at my kids, bickeringPlanning Plus, Triangle Concierge, NewRoad
with my husband and was generally grumpy toPublishing, XPACS and Triangle International. She is
everyone.So I had a huge bowl of ice creamTriangle Concierge's senior trainer and speaker
(which I am convinced cures everything), took aand is the author of their best-selling book "The
hot bath and went to bed. The test was officiallyConcierge Manual" as well as the author of the
over. Two days was more than enough for"In-House Concierge Manual". She is also the
me.On the third day, I decided to visit the sameChairman of the Board of the International
places I had gone during the last two days to seeConcierge and Errand Association. A dynamic
what positives I could find there. First, I went topublic speaker, Katharine has been a speaker at
the pool and sat down in a chair. As I watched, Iseminars and conferences around the country,
saw people laughing and smiling, and childrenand has appeared on both radio and television.
playing in the pool with huge smiles on their face.She is the author of the acclaimed inspirational
The sound of happy children playing is really onebook "God, is that you?
of life's greatest sounds and put an immediate